Generally if I saw some guy in the cafeteria with glasses, a tucked in shirt, sitting by himself, and a pony tail I would naturally think this kid is a nerd and sits in his room on weekends doing nothing. Now this may be right or it may be wrong but either way, I’m coming to this conclusion based pretty much on nothing. I never really thought about it because 9 times out of 10 I judge people but never meet them. When I do meet that 1 person out of 10, my first judgment of them is generally wrong. You get to know someone and find out there’s a lot more to them that what you initially thought.
Why am I writing this? In grade school, you grow up with kids and go to school with them for 12 years. You generally get a good idea of what everyone is about, what they’re like, what activities they do, who they hang out with, etc. Here at college I’m seeing people all over the place that I’ve never seen before. This blog isn’t about other people though, I’m more thinking about me. In high school, I think most people knew that I was kind of a nerd gamer who ran a lot and drank every now and then. Now that I’m here, no one knows me except for my friends. I have 4 classes and in 2 of those classes, I don’t know a single person. I walk in, don’t say a word to anyone, sit in the front, take my notes, and get the hell out. I’m a shirt skinny kid with long hair and I wear glasses sometimes too. I can only imagine what these people must think of me. I make no effort to make friends with any of them. If you asked anyone in those two classes what I was like, well first off probably half of them would say I have no idea who you’re talking about. The other half would probably say… “Oh yeah that kid. Yeah he’s pretty weird, he doesn’t say anything unless he’s raising his hand and he’s the first one out of his seat every day, he always walks really fast too. If I had to guess, I’d say he lives in Sprankle (substance free housing (no offense Amos)) and just reads or something on the weekends”. My friends that know me wouldn’t say that at all.
Because of this, I’m going to do my best from now on to not judge anyone if I don’t really know. This is a very basic concept but lets be honest, everyone judges everyone else at first sight. It’s natural to do so. I’m not saying that I’m not going to judge, but I’m not going to let my judgment of someone effect whether I talk to them or not. In my history class, I literally assume everyone in there is a dumb football/basketball player just taking the class because it’s easy. There could be a misunderstood giant who just really likes history and I’m pegging him as some retard asshole because of how he looks.
I don’t want to be the scrawny nerd who’s shy and sucks at everything. Now I don’t really care if people in my class judge me because I’m not going to party with them or live with them at all. But if there’s a new person at a party and he/she looks a little off (Wacker), I think I’m going to be the first to say hello from now on.